Do You Really Have Problems?
Or are you, unknowingly, creating them?
Sometimes, a lot of the time actually, there are no problems. Everything is fine. We’re alive. Our family is doing well. We eat and have a roof over our head. Yes, things could be better, as always, but we’re okay.
Looking for problems however, even when everything is fine, is often the cause behind us entertaining a negative mindset, one that is ungrateful and as a result, miserable.
Over the years, I have observed how I got myself into deep emotional suffering for no real reason. Every time I experienced pain, and got myself out of it, I was amazed by how much that pain came from the way I thought.
When looking back at the way I behaved for various reasons in the past, it looks close to absurd. Those reasons were no reason to be miserable at all. Yet, I was.
Like everyone, I experience ups and downs. As of recently however, even when my mind drifts towards misery; it doesn’t click. And I find it rather funny because, it’s like there’s a part of me that acts like a child and wants to cry and make a scene, and another one that doesn’t find a reason to do so.
Why go to the bottom of hell for nothing? I’ve been there. And I know how much is required to get out of there. Why repeat this cycle? For not much too.
It’s like, there’s a part of me that wants to be miserable. As if feeling/acting helpless will make angels fly my way. I’m sure they do. But I’m not a kid anymore. And the man I’ve become isn’t compatible with such behaviours either.
Eventually, it makes me more stoic, in an organic way. As I wrote recently, I think it’s part of our many responsibilities as human beings to learn to handle our emotions. Most of the time they’re the reason why our lives get messy. We experience different things, think and feel. It’s part of life. But we can also avoid days of unnecessary drama and quickly get back up on our feet to keep going with life.
I’d rather do the latter.
